What is revenge porn and why you should care

“There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness” – Josh Billings

A lot of couples make videos of themselves doing it. And they have been doing this ever since the first tape recorder existed, long before the Internet. The first “revenge porn ” may have been when the guy returned the tape of them doing it to the video store “by accident.”

OK, I know I’m going to get blasted by all the guys who are going to say, “Well, guys can be victims of revenge porn too.” They can, but this isn’t to say they ever are. Revenge porn is when sexually explicit material about a woman is revealed without her consent with the objective of causing her distress, the perpetrator most often being a former partner.

Why should you care? Turns out it’s not illegal. Anyone is free to distribute sexually explicit material online as long as it doesn’t feature minors and does not target them. With regard to the latter, it is up to the medium to enforce the policy, so there isn’t too much trouble there either.

Revenge porn is not uncommon, and this is also why you shouldn’t think it’s the end of the world if it has happened to you. There is so much sexually explicit material online that even if your leaked antics with a partner who turned out to be less than conscientious do reach someone in your circle, chances are they’ll forget about them very soon. You have nothing to be ashamed of. The guy is the one who should be. You thought he could be trusted and you made a mistake. Forgiving really is the best revenge – nothing will hurt him more than knowing you couldn’t care less about him and the “moments” you shared.



What is Chatroulette and should I use it?


Chatroulette was the site to be on about a decade ago, and it’s still online with a smaller, but just as active, and still predominantly male community. The site randomly pairs you with a user via so-called spins, with whom you have a chat via webcam. A 17-year old computer tech fan from Russia came up with the concept. At its peak time, the site was receiving tens of thousands of visitors a day.

89% Male

An informal study reported by the New York Times in 2010 found that spins would show a single female (not a group with other females or males) on camera only 11% of the time. The likelihood of seeing a webcam featuring no person at all was higher than seeing one showing a sole female. A lot of the spins showed people exposing themselves or masturbating on camera – again, mostly men.

People under 18 are officially banned from this site, and moderators are making efforts to remove sexually explicit material. The number of female users has increased thanks to the cleanup.

In the early days, a lot of the guys reported feeling an adrenaline rush at the prospect of jacking off before a random person. Of course, precautions were taken – nobody could see your face. You had to be careful to hide tattoos, birthmarks, and other identifying marks.

Get the right equipment

To use Chatroulette, make sure that your webcam works and you’ve installed the latest version of Flash. If you want to chat, your microphone should work too.

Sign up

It is now mandatory to sign up with a username and password and provide a valid email address. Accounts are still free – this procedure is just a safety precaution. When you go to the site, you test out your webcam and spin the Chatroulette wheel. Then, have fun with whomever you meet!

Is it safe to use Whatsapp?

WhatsApp has added two-step verification and automatic end-to-end encryption to strengthen their security, but it’s still not 100% safe to use. For one, web malware is a major threat. The app has over a billion users, and when the company announced the launch of desktop app and web interface at the beginning of 2015, a lot of fake sites and apps stealing data and distributing malware emerged.

Only your device can decode the messages you send, but they’re not necessarily safe while on your device. You can create a backup to Google Drive or iCloud on both Android and iOS. This backup contains the decrypted messages on your device.

The EU approved Facebook’s merger with WhatsApp on the condition that their data would be kept separate. This didn’t last long. In 2016, WhatsApp amended its Privacy Policy to allow data sharing from WhatsApp to Facebook, guaranteeing that no information would be visible on the social network publicly. Users could adjust their settings to turn this data sharing off. Unpleasantly enough, sharing was on by default, and if you wanted it off, you had to turn it off manually.

As things currently stand, WhatsApp users can choose between the following settings for their profile photos and/or status: nobody (nobody can see them), my contacts (only people in your address book can see them), and everyone. You can also block contacts and control what you share.

WhatsApp doesn’t store messages after they have been delivered. This policy was adopted to help ensure message confidentiality and security. However, any messages sent to someone else on WhatsApp will remain in their possession and this person will be able to share these messages with other people, both on and off WhatsApp.

Finally, it’s important to use the app’s location feature to share your location only with trusted persons.